Millions of people have experienced an abusive relationship. After leaving an abusive relationship, the victim will have to deal with the emotional and physical wounds. The abuser’s actions leave deep emotional wounds that will take time to heal. However, there is hope for victims of an abusive relationship. There is a healing process that must be undertaken to find happiness again, are difficult to heal unless carefully attended to in the aftermath of such trauma. Life coach and author Robert Moment says, there are 7 keys to finding happiness again after leaving an abusive relationship.
If you have experienced an abusive relationship, the following lists 7 keys to finding happiness again:
1. Create a Support System: An abuser will often isolate the victim from their family, friends, and coworkers so that the victim will lose any emotional, financial, and social support. The purpose is to exert control over the victim. After leaving an abusive relationship, it is important to reestablish relationships with loved ones. It is extremely helpful to be able to confide in people that you trust. Sharing what happened and how you felt will help you to move on.
2. Implement Coping Techniques: It is important to have tools to help you cope with the memories and feelings. This can include: writing in a journal, writing poems or songs, writing short stories…etc. These types of tools will help you express your emotions in a healthy way.
3. Improve Self-Esteem: An abuser will make the victim feel ugly, worthless, stupid, and untrustworthy. Overtime, the victim will start to believe that they really are worthless and do not deserve happiness. It is important to find ways to boost your self-esteem. This can include spending time with loved ones, getting out doing things such as shopping, participating in fun activities…etc. You can also make yourself feel better by getting a haircut, spending the day at a health spa, and getting a complete make-over.
4. Learn to Love Yourself: A battered self-esteem and self-confidence can make victims hate themselves. It is important to learn to love yourself again. There are many self-help exercises that can help you discover all of your good qualities. It is important to believe that you are worthy of respect and love. You need to have faith in yourself before you can heal.
5. Find Internal Peace: there are ways to achieve a calm inner peace that will help you refocus your thinking. Meditation and yoga are two activitiesthat can relax the mind, reduce stress, and help you engage in rational thinking. You can also release your pent up anger and frustration by keeping a daily thought journal. Praying is another way to tap into your spiritual self.
6. Stop Feeling Guilty: Many survivors will feel guilty when they try to express and opinion. When your internal voice says your opinions do not matter, recognize the voice and then turn it off. Overtime you will learn to tune out the voice and it will eventually diminish. When you do hear it, replace it with positive affirmation statements.
7. Get to Know Yourself: There are many things you can do to find happiness again. It is time to start socializing with friends. Join a gym and create a daily exercise routine. Other things you can do include: take a class, find a new hobby, get out and do fun things such as going to a movie, concert, or play with friends. Basically, get to know yourself again. Find out what you like and don’t like. Meditation and praying are good choices for getting to know your spiritual self.
After you leave an abusive relationship, you will be starting a brand new life. It is important to remain strong and committed to your new life. When you implement the right healing strategies, you will find happiness again.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse