Surviving domestic abuse is not an easy task at all mainly due to the fact that emotional scars can be much harder to deal with than any kind of physical abuse. There are a lot of things that a person can do that could make things better and also make things worse. Author and Life Coach Robert Moment is going to tell you things that your future self will be very happy and thankful for.
1-Get rid of all the things you bought together
It can be hard to do this when there are very large assets and possessions like vehicles and even homes that you bought together, but the best way to heal from an abusive relationship in the past is to make sure that you can get rid of everything you can possibly dispose of that reminds you of that past.
2-Learn to forgive to move on
You don’t need to ever be with that person again in order to forgive them. You can forgive them by knowing that all people who are abusive are usually victims of abuse too. Forgive this person because they probably suffered before they made others suffer. It’s not even about forgiving an individual, but more about forgiving that kind of person in general.
3-Get involved in a new hobby
Always try to do something new when you come out of a bad experience. This is a good way for you to start creating a new life for yourself and this will also help you overcome your experience faster.
4-Tell your family and friends to be as supportive as they can
Nothing can be worse than feeling depressed and also being rejected by those you love. The best way to maintain a good balance with your loved ones is be open about your feelings and let them know that you need their support.
5-Avoid staying in touch with that person
Some people can have a hard time letting go of their relationship because even it if was unhealthy they miss the person. This is not a logical reaction, but one that comes from being needy and unable to give yourself enough value as a person to find someone who will treat you right.
6-Be honest with friends you have in common
It might be hard for you to do this but you need to tell all friends in common that you do not want to be associated with that person anymore and you can’t continue to hang out with them. They should be able to understand given the circumstances or emotional abuse being involved. If they care about you they will avoid situations that force both of you to see each other.
7-Eat as healthy as possible
Having a healthy diet is a great way to keep your mind strong. The body and the mind work as a team and if you neglect one, the other will also suffer. If you like eating junk food, you might want to start looking for healthier choices.
Exercise is just as important as eating healthy food. People don’t realize how much influence exercise really has on their ability to be happy and optimistic about life. You should make it a habit to work out as often as you can. You can walk, run or jump rope and even practice a martial art. Any activity that gets your heart pumping is good.
9-Don’t try to deny your feelings
If you feel bad and depressed then allow yourself to feel bad. If you feel angry you should also allow yourself to feel this way. If you try to mask those feelings you will never overcome them.
10-Always be open to meet new people
You need to allow room for new people to come into your life. You might be afraid of doing this but you have to understand that there are good people in the world who also deserve a chance. You are a precious gift to this world and your life matters and there are people who will embrace you and value you for the kind sincere, loving, caring, warm person that you are.
The way you handle your abusive relationship in present time will shape the way you live the rest of your live. You need to be aware of this and avoid getting involved in situations that cause you deny your feelings and become resentful with the rest of the world.
Starting today declare- All of my future relationships will be healthy and reciprocal !
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse