Overcoming domestic abuse and domestic violence can be very difficult for many abused women because the simple thought of having experienced or currently experiencing this is very embarrassing and humiliating. There are some ways that women can start to deal with these situations and cope with them, but they need to be able to ask themselves some questions in order to start healing. Some women don’t even want to admit that they are in an abusive relationship at all. In this article we are going to show you the kind of questions you should ask yourself to determine what you need to do.
1-Do I always fear saying anything that might upset my partner?
If you are always walking on eggshells with your partner and you feel you can’t even ask them anything, you have to start realizing that this is not a good way to live at all. Many cases of domestic violence report this as one of the main reasons why women end up being abused once they stand up for themselves.
2-Does he always tell me that I look bad or mentions my appearance in a negative way?
If the man you are with is constantly telling you that you look terrible and that you don’t make him feel attracted to you anymore, this is a very important sign that you are dealing with a very abusive partner and you need to find a way to leave him.
3-Do you fear that he will hurt himself or hurt you if you leave him?
This is emotional terrorism and you have to take action and leave the situation as soon as you can. If you don’t have the courage to do it on your own, you could even setup an intervention to get your partner some help before things escalate to something tragic.
4-Has he ever hit you?
If he has hit you once, he will very likely hit you again. Never accept a man who will dare to hit you and treat you badly. If you don’t realize that this is a terrible situation, you are also becoming mentally unstable and you need to find psychological help to allow you to see how bad things are.
5-Does he try to keep you away from your family and friends?
If he constantly asks you to stay away from everyone you love, you can be sure that je is a very possessive and controlling man. Get away from the situation as soon as you can because you will never be able to live a happy life with someone who wants you to only socialize with them.
6-Have you ever tried to seek counseling and he tells you that is not an option?
If your partner always tells you that seeking professional help is not something he would do, this is usually because he is too far gone to even acknowledge that he has a problem. When this happens it becomes nearly impossible to fix the situation and your partner will only get more and more abusive with time.
7-Do you think you will ever change him?
If you tried counseling and you have tried to have adult conversations with him and still there are no results, maybe you need to finally realize that this person is never going to change and you are going to be stuck in an abusive relationship for the rest of your life. This is probably the most important question you need to ask yourself and you have to be very honest when you answer it. Abused women can only stop the domestic abuse and domestic violence if they take the initiative to leave and seek help.
The subject of domestic abuse and violence is a very serious and damaging issue that many women struggle with overcoming every day. You need to ask yourself these questions if you really want to be able to take the first steps towards healing from your abusive relationship.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse