As a domestic violence survivor you can experience emotional healing and freedom in your life after leaving and ending an abusive relationship. The subject of domestic violence is something that a lot of women consider to be extremely shameful and this is the main reason why a large number of abusive relationships never change. The abusers are in control because their victims feel more afraid of allowing their friends and family to know that their relationship is terrible than they fear the abuse itself. This is something that can easily escalate to tragedy and no one should ever allow things to get that bad. Once you take the brave step of leaving an abusive relationship you will be able to start recovering with the help of these 10 key steps to emotional healing outlined by Life coach and author Robert Moment.
10-Get rid of all the gifts
If the person gave you a lot of gifts and you have all sorts of items that you still use, you need to get rid of them. You could give them away or sell them, but the point is that in order to heal you must first detach yourself from anything that reminds you of this person.
9-Make sure your friends and family are aware of what is going on
The truth is that healing from an abusive relationship can be something very hard and extremely difficult to do. This is the main reason why you need to let everyone that our trust know that you need them to be supportive and understanding. This will help you move on much faster.
8-Get a new hobby
When you are dealing with the recovery of an emotionally abusive relationship you need to find new activities that you can do which will really help you distract your mind and get a completely new perspective on things. This is the best way to make sure that you are able to regain your happiness is by engaging in new activities that make you feel good.
7-Learn to cope with emotions
You should not try to avoid feeling any kind of emotions at all. Even if you feel anger you should allow yourself to feel it freely and you can go running or scream out loud while you are alone. You should find productive ways to let go of that anger but never let it get bottled up. This could lead to a serious crisis.
A lot of people fail to realize the large connection that there is between their emotional health and their physical health. If you exercise often, you will be getting your body in a better shape and also allowing your brain to get more oxygen and your internal chemistry will have a better balance.
You have heard that you are what you eat and this is a very true statement. The kind of food that we put into our bodies is going to be completely related to the kind of life that we lead. If you only eat junk food and you have high sugar and fat levels, you will always be edgy and feeling anxious. If you change that diet for healthy food, you will definitely feel a difference in you emotional state.
4-Meet other people with similar problems
A great way to overcome emotional abuse is to be able to talk to other people have been through the same problem or might even be going through it right now. This is going to make it a lot easier for you to heal and you will find more courage from hearing how others managed to overcome their problem. The good thing is that you can use the Internet to join support groups and chat with people from all over the world.
3-Talk to an expert
Sometimes the best way to heal is to talk to someone who is an expert in the way our minds work. This is why psychology is such a helpful and important way for people to become stronger.
2-Make new friends
You should be making new friends and meeting new people that are not related to your physical abuse issues. Avoid getting into conversations about your relationship problems until you are fully healed. These new friends are meant to help you start a new life.
1-Take things slow
The process of recovery can be a long one, but you need to take things slow and make sure that you are healing properly. Do not rush things and never try to bury your feelings with any drugs or alcohol because they will eventually resurface because you didn’t deal with them properly.
The process of healing can be difficult but you can be sure that thanks to this you will emerge a much stronger person who is going to be able to find happiness again.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse