Domestic violence survivors you can be happy again by starting a new life .A lot of domestic violence victims feel like they will never be able to be happy again once they have gone through a very damaging and long abusive relationship. The best thing to do in a case like this is to understand that the road ahead will not be easy, but the more you learn to handle bad situations and overcome them, the stronger you will become. This is going to be the most important aspect of the healing process. To understand that the journey will have a lot of bumps and you will feel terrible at times, but the more you push through, the more capable of handling all the bad things in life you will become.
Domestic abuse is something that can happen much more often than we think. There are many women and even men who suffer from this, but a lot of people think that abuse is only something that comes from physical harm. The truth is that the scars that can come from emotional abuse are harder to recover from. Emotional abuse is easier to hide from others but the person that is the victim of this kind of abuse can suffer terrible consequences if they don’t leave the relationship soon.
Once they get out of the relationship they can find themselves in a terrible depression and feeling like everything was their fault. This is a problem that is not going to be easy to overcome, but there are many ways to make the process go faster. The first thing that you need to do in order to start a new life is to let go of the life that you had before. This means that anything that you shared with the other person and all the items you received from that individual should not remain in your possession. This is one of the first and most important things to get done in order to start the process.
You need to let go of the idea of that relationship ever being part of your life again. If you feel that you miss the good things about that person, you need to realize that their abuse eclipsed all of those good things and you should never look back and consider starting over with this person. This is going to allow you to heal completely and eventually find enough peace of mind to meet someone else and give another chance to a romantic relationship.
Even if you are not ready to get involved with anyone just yet, you should find a way to make new friends and this will allow you to get a new perspective in life and give you a feeling of having that fresh start that you need so badly. There is nothing more important than being able to start a new life with as little baggage as possible.
You should also acknowledge that everything that happened is not your fault and you never deserve to become the victim of any kind of abuse, but a very important thing is to ask yourself if you also abused the other person and you both got involved in a vicious circle. The only thing worse than being a victim of abuse, is being someone who is abusive and is unable to recognize this. Take a long time to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you ever verbally or physically attacked that person too. We all have flaws and we definitely need to work on becoming better versions of who we are. This is the key to a good fresh start.
There is no such thing as someone who deserves to be abused and even if you analyze your own behavior and find that you never abused your partner to deserve any abuse, you will at least learn to never again take any kind of abuse from a person and you will walk away from a relationship at the first sign of emotional and physical abuse.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse