Verbal abuse is very hurtful and painful. There are many relationships that involve no physical harm at all but this doesn’t mean that there is no abuse in them. Some of the worst kinds of abuse can be done entirely with words and many women are constantly treated with no respect or care towards their feelings. In this verbal abuse article we are going to give you 10 warning signs that you are in a verbally abusive relationship.
1-Is he always calling you a victim in a sarcastic way?
If you find that he is always saying that you act like a victim and he does it with a very sarcastic tone, you need to recognize that this is a very clear sign of verbal abuse.
2-Does he say insulting things in a “playful” way?
Some men can be abusive in a very deceiving way and they will call you a bitch or very insulting names in a way that seems casual and playful. This is something that can easily escalate into very disrespectful behavior.
3-Is he always comparing you to other people?
It doesn’t matter if he compares you to ex- partners or to other people he knows. If he does it to make you feel like you are less valuable than anyone else, then you are definitely being verbally abused.
4-Does he always tell you that you have to spend all your time with him?
You are also being abused if you feel like he never lets you spend time with friends and family. The simple fact that he would say this is also a very common sign of verbal abuse. You have to remember that anything that is spoken and hurtful to you will fall into this category.
5-Does he ever say he will kill himself if you leave him?
This is a very extreme form verbal abuse that can make you feel extremely trapped in a relationship.
6-Did he start the relationship with emotional blackmail?
If he ever said that he was always considering suicide in the past and that all that changed when you came into his life, he is the kind of person that will be willing to make you feel terrified of leaving him.
7-Has he ever said you are no longer looking attractive to him?
If your partner ever called you ugly and said that you no longer look good enough, he is definitely unable to have sympathy for your feelings as a woman and this is a sign that he only cares about himself.
8-Does he ever “punish” you with silence?
If you find that when you want to talk and have an adult conversation he always gives you the silent treatment he is actually being verbally abusive. Believe it or not when someone doesn’t say something they are basically saying that you are not worth talking to. They might as well write it down, but it’s still abuse.
9-Has he ever humiliated you in public?
This is a very bad sign of verbal abuse and you should consider it one of the most critical red flags. If he calls you names or makes jokes about your appearance in front of other people, this is a very immature and childish man who has no respect for you at all.
10-Does he ever say that you are nothing without him?
This is another extremely important thing to look out for. If he has ever said that you are worthless without him in your life, you need to get out of the relationship as soon as you can. No one has the right to verbally abuse you in that way.
You should never let verbal abuse escalate when you are in a relationship. The moment you both lose respect towards each other due to verbal abuse, you are opening up the doors to a very toxic relationship. Always put a stop to this as soon as it happens.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books, Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and Abusive People, and How Do You Find Happiness . Robert specializes in maximizing human potential for happiness , purpose and success. Visit http://www.DomesticAbuseandDomesticViolence.com and sign-up for the FREE Life-Transforming e-courses on Overcoming Domestic Abuse and Verbal Abuse